Your teen can code in Python but can’t do laundry. They have 1,000 Instagram followers but freeze when meeting new people. Sound familiar? Here are 35 essential life skills your teen can work on perfecting before they turn 18. When your child finally graduates from college, they’ll thank you. Better yet, send them on a service trip abroad for teens and help them get a head start on the skills that with set the foundation for their future lives. Download the Teen’s Life Skills Checklist
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Real Stories from Alumni “I had to learn how to connect with kids who didn’t speak English, and to be patient and really listen. That experience taught me the value of empathy and true communication.” “That one Rustic trip unlocked something in me. I learned to set goals, plan ahead, and solve problems in ways I never imagined. Those early experiences led me to a career in global service.” “My first experience in Tanzania was about learning how to make new friends, navigate an unfamiliar situation, and be independent in a space where I didn’t know anyone. All of these challenges gave me the confidence and maturity to take on the world.” “I learned that curiosity, not the size of your wallet or your age, is what opens doors. You don’t realize until later how travel helps you become confident, independent, and ready for anything.” “Travel opened my eyes to how connected we all are. My experiences abroad shaped who I am and led me to pursue my passion for global issues and helping others.”
Basic Life Skills for Teens How to Personal Groom and Be Clean How to Perform First Aid How to Have Impeccable Social Skills and Manners How to Stay Organized How to Swim How to Send Mail How to Use Tools
1. How to Personal Groom and Be Clean Did you know that only about half of teens wash their hands after using the bathroom, and even fewer use soap? While it doesn’t seem glamorous, personal grooming is one of the foundational life skills. Cleanliness and hygiene are life skills essential to our social interactions. Pig-Pen didn’t earn a ton of love from his friends, except Charlie Brown. Your teen won’t either unless their care routine is on-point. Regular showering, dental care and skincare promote good physical (and mental) health. Lead the way and teach your kid to soap up, scrub off and rinse away. Basic life skills and a little self-awareness (Do I stink?) might ensure a comfortable and healthy life. Speaking of rinsing the right way, let’s talk about hand washing. Sanitizing your hands might not alter your appearance. But, these kindergarten-level child skills like wearing clean clothes and living in a clean place might prevent your teen from getting sick. In the life skills game, physical health is job number one. If they need tips, have your child take a look at this video from Johns Hopkins. Or remember, Mari Kondo was right: there is a joy to tidying up. How travel teaches this skill: Traveling with a group means keeping up with showers and hygiene out of respect for roommates and new friends.
2. How to Perform First Aid Knowing basic first aid skills can help your teen when there’s an accident or injury. It’s like having superhero life skills to help people in trouble. Teens should learn how to clean and bandage wounds, perform CPR, and help someone choking. Your kid might be a lifesaver via basic first aid. We can help with that. Teenager learning CPR during the Public Health in the Caribbean program. How travel teaches this skill: Travel reminds teens how important it is to know basic first aid, as even a small scrape or bug bite can happen far from home. 3. How to Have Impeccable Social Skills and Manners Grace and courtesy aren’t limited to Montessori kindergarten. Knowing how to interact with others is one of the most important life skills for teens. It helps make friends and get along with people. Manners are a guidebook for being a good friend. Saying “please” and “thank you,” listening when others talk, and being kind are simple ways to bond with others. A business skill like executive leadership often begins with being likable. In just 2 weeks abroad, your teen might master more life skills than 4 years of high school. How travel teaches this skill: Travel exposes teens to new cultures and people, encouraging polite introductions and respectful behavior everywhere they go. Summer programs are 75% full! Enroll now to secure your teen’s spot! 4. How to Stay Organized Teach teenagers better time management skills. Keep on top of homework assignments, chores and extracurricular activities. Being ahead reduces stress. Time management and organization are crucial life skills. Education on strategies to stay organized, like calendars and to-do lists, are key to future success. Find a system that works for them to be more efficient and productive. Time management apps like Monday or Trello can help build these essential life skills. How travel teaches this skill: Packing, keeping track of your belongings, and sharing space teaches teens to stay organized on the road. 5. How to Swim Teaching your kid to swim is a critical skill that can save their life or someone else’s. They should know how to float, tread water, and perform different strokes. This main life skill that helps with maintaining physical health and enjoying the water safely. How travel teaches this skill: Whether snorkeling in Hawaii or relaxing by the beach, swimming skills help teens safely enjoy all the experiences travel offers. 6. How to Send Mail The essential life skills are not always the most obvious. Understanding how to send and receive mail is important for communicating with others and shopping online. Practice addressing envelopes, using stamps and tracking packages. Plus, every teen wants to learn Amazon drop shipping these days, so help them out. How travel teaches this skill: Writing and mailing postcards to family becomes a memorable way to practice traditional communication skills abroad. 7. How to Use Tools Knowing how to use tools like hammers, screwdrivers and wrenches helps teens fix small problems on their own. This do-it-yourself set of key skills builds confidence. Moreover, being able to tighten a loose screw or hammer a nail might save teens time and money. How travel teaches this skill: From assembling tents to helping with community service, travel offers hands-on experience with basic tools.
Essential Life Skills for Teens How to Budget and Manage Money How to Buy and Make Food How to Dress and Care For Their Clothing How to Communicate and Cope With Emotions How to Problem Solve How to Master the Basic Educational Skills How to Set Goals and Manage Time How to Make Decisions How to Be Employable How to Drive How to Be a Self-Starter and Cope With Failure How to Stand up for Yourself How to Volunteer Your Time and Help Others How to Prepare for Natural Disasters
8. How to Budget and Manage Money Make the bank of mom and dad a luxury, not a necessity. Financial management is essential; budgeting skills are a must. More than half (54%) of teens feel unprepared to finance their futures. Teach them how they should spend your (and one day their own) money. Also, your teen should save for emergencies or big purchases. Bonus points for teaching about investing and compounding before high school graduation. Teens should learn financial discipline to prepare for life. Start by understanding the value of money. Then, learn to plan through budgeting. Provide an allowance and help your child calculate the cost of their basic needs. Engage in proactive conversations about how to save money. Teach credit card management for improved decision-making skills, possibly starting with a prepaid card. Financial literacy like budgeting skills starts early. Pinching pennies long term is tough on mental health. Make sure they won’t run out before they get what you need. Don’t let your teen wait to learn these financial management skills lessons in their twenties. How travel teaches this skill: Managing a daily allowance or exchanging foreign currency teaches real-world budgeting and smart spending. 9. How to Buy and Make Food Buying and cooking food are two self-management skills for teens. Teach your teen to cook basic dishes: roast a chicken, make rice, boil pasta, scramble eggs. Basic cooking skills help them learn to make healthy choices and improve money management compared to eating out. If you’re feeling like Julie or Julia, teach them your favorite family dishes and pass on a legacy. Learning about different ingredients and recipes makes cooking fun and creative. Also make sure your teen knows other domestic skills like how to handle knives, use kitchen appliances and manage a gas stove. How travel teaches this skill: Shopping at local markets and cooking group meals requires teens to plan, purchase, and prepare food together. 10. How to Dress and Care For Their Clothing Knowing how to choose clothes appropriate for different occasions and weather is an important skill. It helps you feel confident and comfortable. Clothing skills — proper washing, pressing and folding — helps them last longer and look better. Teaching them valuable skills like sewing buttons and mending small tears will save your teenager money over time. How travel teaches this skill: Deciding what to pack, washing clothes by hand, and dressing for local customs or weather builds clothing know-how. 11. How to Communicate and Cope With Emotions Express yourself with strong interpersonal skills for strong relationships and maintaining mental health. Equally important, though, is active listening. Active listening is understanding the text and subtext in life moments. These communication skills like speaking clearly and active listening are key to building healthy relationships and help your teen succeed in school, work and social situations. Learn from your Montessori pre-K; demonstrate good communication skills by being respectful and considerate of people’s feelings. 70% of teens say anxiety and depression are major problems among their peers. Teach your teen healthy ways to cope with their feelings. Reinforce that sadness, anger, and fear are ok. Embrace it or risk falling to the dark side. Help them find constructive ways to manage their stress and build support networks of friends, family or counselors. How travel teaches this skill: Travel brings homesickness and new friendships, pushing teens to share feelings and practice empathy in real time. 12. How to Problem Solve Critical thinking and problem-solving skills are essential primary life skills to success. When you’re out in the world, an important life skill is to identify problems and find solutions. How do you eat a big bag of chips? One at a time. Break down big problems into smaller ones. Then, brainstorm different possible solutions. Think about the downstream consequences of each solution before making a decision. Building problem solving skills for teens benefits them later in their personal and professional lives. How travel teaches this skill: When things don’t go as planned, teens must think on their feet and find solutions. For example, what if they forgot to bring an extra pair of socks? Or if they missed the bus?
13. How to Master the Basic Educational Skills No matter what they say about the AI robots taking over, basic educational skills education like reading, writing and arithmetic will still matter. Practice these basic educational skills with teens to improve their foundation for learning. No, you don’t need to quiz multiplication facts at the dinner table, but make sure the learning never stops. How travel teaches this skill: Navigating signs, reading maps, or journaling about daily experiences puts reading and writing into daily practice. 14. How to Set Goals and Manage Time Setting goals helps teens stay focused and achieve in life. Goal setting is the life skill which begets more advanced life skills. Keep your goals SMART: specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound. Break bigger projects into smaller ones. Then, celebrate your progress along the way. You been good; you deserve it. Time management helps you achieve goals without feeling overwhelmed. The poorly organized person is not going to get as far as the person with the essential skills to win. Teach these key life skills early. Use tools like planners or calendars to organize and stay organized. Learn to say no to things that aren’t essential so you can focus on what matters most. How travel teaches this skill: Sticking to group schedules and setting goals for the trip requires strong planning. 15. How to Make Decisions Amongst the most important life skills is an ability to think through various challenges. Decision making skills start by considering the pros and cons of each option and thinking about how each choice aligns with your values and goals. Calculate the impact of each decision and weigh it against the expected likelihood of each outcome (This is an expectancy vs. valence calculation for the nerds out there). These essential life skills for teens don’t just happen. They must be taught by parents or teachers. How travel teaches this skill: Choosing activities, meals, or how to spend free time helps teens weigh options and make confident choices. 16. How to Be Employable Not everyone is going to be an influencer. Some people will need real jobs. However, only 57% of teens feel confident they have the skills needed to compete for future jobs. Teach your teen to be employable. Teamwork, communication, leadership skills and problem-solving are important employability skills for later workplace success. Practice these life skills through volunteer, extracurricular or other activities. Help them build a strong resume to stand out to potential employers. How travel teaches this skill: Group travel builds skills employers look for: teamwork, communication, and responsibility. 17. How to Drive A few basic things might save a life. Teach teens traffic laws and safe driving habits. Reward safe driving. Avoid distractions like texting or talking on the phone while driving. Show them to wear seatbelts and follow speed limits. Model the behavior you want to see and you’ll have a safe teen behind the wheel. How travel teaches this skill: Traveling in new places shows teens the value of understanding transportation options, reading road signs, and planning safe travel, even if they’re not the ones driving. 18. How to Be a Self-Starter and Cope With Failure Taking initiative and being proactive in pursuing your goals sets up later success. Teach responsibility for actions and willingness to learn from mistakes. Failure is a natural part of life. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, focus on what they can learn from the experience. Consider how they might improve on the next go around. Everyone fails, and it doesn’t define worth. How travel teaches this skill: Travel encourages teens to try new things, make mistakes, and bounce back with resilience. 19. How to Stand up for Yourself Standing up for yourself doesn’t always come up when teaching life skills to your teen. But it is important for them to know how to assert themselves. Then they can be an effective advocate for their needs and boundaries. Practice assertive communication with your teen by encouraging them to express thoughts and feelings. How travel teaches this skill: Speaking up about preferences or addressing issues with group members fosters assertiveness. 20. How to Volunteer Your Time and Help Others Volunteering helps others and gives a strong sense of purpose. Volunteering also helps them develop new skills and expand their social networks beyond Insta and Bookface. Look for opportunities for your kid to volunteer in areas that interest them and align with your family values. Help with conservation in Costa Rica or community projects in Belize! How travel teaches this skill: Service projects immerse teens in helping local communities, teaching the value of giving back. 21. How to Prepare for Natural Disasters You want your teen ready to respond and be safe in emergencies. So, create a disaster preparedness plan. This plan should include evacuation routes, flashlights, food and water. Also, remember a first aid kit, backup batteries and emergency contacts. Stay informed about risks in your local area. Practice drills to ensure they are ready to respond. How travel teaches this skill: Traveling to new areas teaches awareness of local risks (like hurricanes or earthquakes) and how to stay safe.
Important Life Skills for Teens How to Handle Change How to Use Your Voice Bravely How to Understand Diverse Viewpoints Through Listening How to Help Others Through Empathy How to Tackle Challenges with Grit How to Be a Leader Through Independent Thinking How to Foster Growth Through Curiosity How to Handle the Day to Day with “Adulting” Skills How to Achieve Goals Through Planning How to Find Your Path Through Initiative How to Treasure Life Through Relaxation and Reflection How to Physically Navigate The World and Use Ride-Sharing Services How to Talk on the Phone (Politely) How to Regulate Social Media Time and Use
22. How to Handle Change Child development experts mention kids’ ability to handle transitions. In the teen years, that may seem like a small matter. Teens need to be able to change how they do things. When Forbes queried business experts about desirable employee traits, flexibility and adaptability were among the most desirable. Learning to be flexible is important when the unexpected arises. Parents and teens themselves can find other ways to foster this skill. Perhaps this includes putting teens in unfamiliar settings through travel programs and other learning service opportunities. How travel teaches this skill: Adapting to new foods, cultures, and unexpected changes is part of every travel adventure. 23. How to Use Your Voice Bravely Most teens are masters at texting. But, the decrease in long-form writing might make it daunting to share ideas. Practice talking about complicated topics at home. Suggest debate teams and other in-person programs to hone communication skills and critical thinking. Get your teens involved in developing leadership skills by finding available positions in the community. Nudge them to interact with people of different backgrounds. They might even make new friends. Rustic students gather for a discussion during their Hawaii Service program. How travel teaches this skill: Sharing ideas in group discussions or leading an activity gives teens practice in speaking up. 24. How to Understand Diverse Viewpoints Through Listening Rustic students interact with local villagers during the Floating Village Service Expedition in Cambodia. Our world is becoming more connected. It’s more important to communicate with people with different views points. The Deliberative Polling process founded by Stanford University Professor James Fishkin is one way to help people come together to discuss topics and gain understanding. Another way is for teens to spend time in communities that are different from their own. This may be possible through local volunteer opportunities or to experience a different culture through travel. There’s no better way to practice empathy and listening than experiencing daily life in another culture. Programs in Japan, South Korea, or Greece immerse students in new perspectives. How travel teaches this skill: Living and working alongside people from different backgrounds teaches teens to listen and understand new perspectives. 25. How to Help Others Through Empathy Sydney Roach plays with children during her service trip to the Dominican Republic. We hope teens have the desire to help others. Exposing young people to the experiences of others in need can help foster empathy. It’s also helpful to work with organizations that have the know-how on ways to provide help. On our programs, we emphasize balancing primary life skills for teens and the needs of communities and see how to ease problems. How travel teaches this skill: Seeing different ways of life in person helps teens relate to and support others with genuine empathy. 26. How to Tackle Challenges with Grit Teens who have grit can better handle life’s inevitable challenges. Seeing others find their way through challenging circumstances can help with this. Students who travel mention this when they share their stories. Megan Kahrs made five trips with Rustic Pathways. She pointed out how much more she appreciated education after visiting a Tanzanian village: “Many of the school kids would spend up to 5 hours walking, round trip, to get to school and back home. They didn’t have access to a shower or clean clothes. That was their daily routine and it quickly became ours too. From this, I learned so much that made me respect their culture. Education was so important to the families of Hayedesh. They would send their young, unsupervised children walking for hours in the dark, on dirt roads to get to school and learn.” Teach your teen to keep trying even when things get tough, and they’ll get through challenges. How travel teaches this skill: Overcoming travel hiccups (e.g. difficult-but-rewarding hikes in Ecuador) shows teens the value of perseverance. Photo: Megan Kahrs 27. How to Be a Leader Through Independent Thinking There often is a strong desire to follow the crowd in the teen years. That tendency hinders decision-making. Teens can develop independent thinking life skills by gathering information before coming to conclusions. Remember: the internet and social media sites feed users information based on algorithms. To get a wider information set, you may have to search a little longer and work a little harder. How travel teaches this skill: 69% of teachers say international travel boosts students’ independence and confidence. Teens often make independent decisions and lead smaller group tasks, building leadership skills. Here’s how Carolyn K. went from shy to a confident leader: At the start of her Rustic Pathways trip, Carolyn didn’t know a single person and felt nervous about traveling alone. But right from the airport, she quickly made friends with others who were also traveling alone. She found that the kinds of students who join Rustic trips are some of the most open-minded and accepting people she’d ever met. By the time the trip ended, the strangers she started with had become close friends who encouraged and supported her every step of the way. The trip leaders were caring and gave everyone the space to be independent, which gave Carolyn real confidence. She returned home feeling not just more outgoing, but with a new sense of leadership and lifelong connections. 28. How to Foster Growth Through Curiosity Hayes Benenson enjoys climbing in Peru during the 2021 Andes to Amazon program. Curiosity is natural in many children who ask “why” at a young age. This wanes over time. So, it’s worthwhile to keep recognizing learning opportunities. If your teen wonders why their dog is acting a certain way or the sky is yellow, encourage them to look it up. Or, watch a documentary together and observe life’s patterns. Get out and experience life to its fullest. Visiting new places through travel keeps curiosity alive. Trying new things keeps learning skills fresh. Hayes Benenson enjoys climbing in Peru during the 2021 Andes to Amazon program. How travel teaches this skill: Exploring new places, foods, and ideas on the road sparks lifelong curiosity and learning. 29. How to Handle the Day to Day with “Adulting” Skills Adults don’t remember learning the things that teens need to master. Taking care of detailed “adulting” tasks is important for day-to-day adult problem solving. Teach these basic home management skills that you might take for granted. These everyday skills helps teens learn to plan and organize. Before age 18, teens should learn many tasks like registering to vote, online shopping and paying bills. How travel teaches this skill: Managing daily chores, keeping track of documents, and handling travel logistics builds practical life skills. 30. How to Achieve Goals Through Planning The ability to make plans has seemed to decline with the rise of the smartphone. With texting and Snapchat come last minute decisions about where to go and what to do. Putting a teen in charge of family time management may help them become self sufficient. Have them make plans and work to realize them. Perhaps your teen might plan to take part in a spring break or summer program. Task the teen with the steps involved, ranging from fundraising to electronic paperwork. How travel teaches this skill: Travel gives teens a chance to set personal goals (like making new friends or trying new foods) and take steps to accomplish them.
31. How to Find Your Path Through Initiative Finding initiative and drive is easier when we are working on something we love. So, discover your purpose. Rustic Pathways partners with the Boston College Purpose Lab but this can come from taking time to explore new ideas. Help your teen to find a path to future goals. Make plans with your teen to try, fail and explore. Keep trying even when things get tough, and you’ll get through challenges, together. How travel teaches this skill: Travel gives teens chances to step up, volunteer for new roles, and discover what excites them. 32. How to Treasure Life Through Relaxation and Reflection Rustic students take a break to relax during their Off the Map program in Alaska. Photo: Tristan Grosham Sometimes the to do list never ends. So, the ability to relax and reflect may be harder than it seems. Young adults need to manage their mental health. Getting out in nature is one way to do so. Other options include journal writing, drawing, fitness, hanging out with friends and listening to music. Maybe just touch a little grass and stare up at the sky together. How travel teaches this skill: Quiet moments, like watching the sunset, help teens relax and reflect on their growth. 33. How to Physically Navigate The World and Use Ride-Sharing Services Did you know that fewer than 2% of young adults feel fully confident navigating without GPS or a smartphone? Make sure your kid knows where they are going and how to get there. Not only make sure they are savvy with google maps, but also with a physical map. Google doesn’t always work in a built environment or in a rural one. For personal safety, travel planning and spatial awareness, practice navigation with your teen. Even in rural areas, ride sharing has taken over. Teach your teen to use these convenient new forms of transportation. Make sure they avail themselves of the safety features, particularly sharing their location with you. How travel teaches this skill: Learning to read maps or use public transit boosts navigation confidence. 34. How to Talk on the Phone (Politely) In our texting-based world, a few life skills for teens might seem out of date. In personal life or in business, young adults may need to communicate to a person on the other end of the line. Teach your teen to speak on the phone to express their complex ideas. In their future business calls, talking on the phone demonstrates professionalism and courtesy. Personal relationships still drive professional success. How travel teaches this skill: While away from home, teens often call or video chat with family, learning to communicate updates and plans clearly and courteously. 35. How to Regulate Social Media Time and Use Limit the time your teen spends on social media. Overuse can lead to anxiety, depression, mental health issues and loneliness, especially in teenagers. Sosh meeds is here to stay. But, spending less time on it allows more face-to-face interactions with friends and family. These ties are essential to meaningful relationships. Model the right behavior with your teen. How travel teaches this skill: Exciting activities and limited Wi-Fi on trips encourage teens to put down their phones and connect face-to-face.
Working on these 35 behavioral skills will give teens a big hand up as they move into adulthood. If you’d like more guidance and advice, here are 21 life lessons every teenager should know: